It was October 2015 and I had just walked out of the job not knowing what the future held for me. I had just endured a miserable five weeks in my new job so I made a decision to walk out of the job. I had a mortgage to pay and a wedding to plan for so there was no time to feel sorry for myself. I knew I had to find a new job fairly quickly. I got into my house, printed my CV off and I was on the train to Bristol to a recruitment agency I had used a year earlier. I was sure they would be able to find me something on a temporary basis fairly quickly. I filled in all the forms that needed filling and a day later I had a call to go for an interview and a couple weeks later I was…read more >

Self-confidence is one thing I always struggled with as far as I can remember, having been picked on by my year one teacher and everyone in my class, self-confidence was to elude me for the next 18 years. A lot of people who have known me for years did not even realise that the simplest thing scared me, meeting knew people was one of the most scary thing for me because I always used to think people were always judging me. When I was in my third year of University, I realised that if I was to get the things I want in my life I had to become confident. I looked at the things that gave me real confidence, I realised that I was confident atsinging because I had been practicing everyday so i decided to do one new thing everyday that would give more confident. A few years…read more >

It was January 2016, I had just started my third job in the space three months, a few months earlier I left a job that I did well in in order to work near home but the move did not work out. In September of the previous year I started a new job which was 10 minutes’ walk from my house which was ideal because my previous job was a 50 minute train journey plus a 20 minute walk to work. On the first Monday on September I reported to my new manager’s office and I just had this feeling that this was not going to work out. The weeks that followed were the worst weeks anyone can experience in work and after five weeks I made a decision to leave because my confidence was been eaten away everyday. I managed to get myself a temporary job almost immediately through…read more >

I had lunch with my mum a couple hours ago, my mum lives a couple hundred miles from me so it is always a delight to see her. I asked her to meet me at a local super market which is near my office for lunch. A couple hours later I was sitting for lunch with mum catching up on everything that has been going own. Very quickly the conversation turned serious, she was not happy that I was not doing something that I was meant to be doing, I quickly tried to defend myself, I told her how busy I was doing my day job and trying to build my coaching business from scratch, Mum did not even look at me as I went through my reasons, she waited for me to finish what I was saying and she just said “Excuses will not take you anywhere, the truth…read more >

I have spent this morning writing my second book “Finding your Voice” After five hours of writing I went to the kitchen to make a cup of tea and I discovered that we were out of milk. I went to the local shop which is just around the corner from our house. Whenever I go there I always make a point to say hello the security person on duty and I did the same this afternoon but I did not get a response because the security person on duty was on their phone, Yes ladies and gentlemen the person who was meant to be looking out for people shoplifting was on their phone. I spent about five minutes in the shop and for the whole time I was there I was looking at the security person on duty to see if they come off their phone at any point and…read more >

A few years ago I was working in a very busy outpatients department and the one thing I remember is that I did not have a day were I was clock watching because it was just very busy. I would arrive at reception at 8:30am and before I even turned my computer on I had doctors asking me for all kind of printed lists and before long the patients were queuing up and the day of dealing with query after query and complaint after complaint began. I felt like I did not have enough time to do all I need to do so I went in on weekends on my time to finish off some of the work that was not done in the week. I worked all the hours under the sun but I always felt like I was not making any progress in the job, in myself and…read more >

My grandfather always used to tell us to focus on the positive out of every situation in life; I can remember him telling my order cousins that no matter how bad things may seem to be there is always going to be a positive thing in it. He always used to back up his theory with a little story which went like this. There once was man who worked for a shoe making company, he was sent to another country to see if the company should sell shoes in that country. When he came back a month later he told his company that there was no point trying to sell shoes in that country because people in that country did not wear shoes. His boo decided to send another one of his employees to go to that country and a week later he come back and he told his boss…read more >

It was November 2014; I had just picked up a booked by world renowned Motivation Speaker Les Brown called “You can live your dreams”. After reading this book I was convinced this was the path I was meant to follow in life, People who knew me seven years ago would tell you how shy and reserved I was (I know, it’s very hard to believe now) the truth is I was a very anxious young man who did not have any confidence in his abilities. However this dream started to grow each and everyday, I started to read a lot of self-help books to see how other speakers were doing it. I started to contact local speakers to get advice and guidance. One of the speakers I spoke to encouraged me to join toastmasters which I did and I never looked back. I meet a lot of people who say…read more >

It was December 1995; It was a very exciting time of my young life because I as getting ready to start primary school the following week. One evening, I was watching television with my cousins who were looking after us because parents were out as were on many occasions, we were watching a movie when we heard raised voices which i soon recognised, it was my parents, I took no notice at all but all the adults in the room went to see what was going on after a few minutes I heard mum scream so I ran down to the kitchen to see what was going on, I was greeted by blood on the floor, I could see a knife had been used and my heart stopped at which point my young brother came down to tell me what was going on in the movie we were watching and…read more >

Growing up in a house with domestic abuse and being bullied in school meant that I was going through each and everyday with a lot of worries. I was always worried that something was going to go wrong or something bad was going to happen, I would always wonder if I was going to hear raised voices or if someone I thought was a friend of mine was going to turn against me because they do not want to be seen associating with me but they would join the group of people who used to bully me. I lived everyday with the expectation that something was bound to go wrong, even when things were going well I would say things like “This is just too good to be true, something is bound to go wrong” and the majority of the time it went wrong. Do you remember how excited you…read more >